Explore your unconscious desires, Embrace the shadowy side of Self, and Release your potential.

I will guide you through deep inquiry, thoughtful meditations and reflections to discover the connection between that which you disavow and what is limiting you in achieving what you desire. Come to know and receive the fullest expression of your authentic self, the light and the dark. Allow that brilliant reunion to unravel your fears and illuminate your own sacred journey, setting you on a path to your greatest, highest expression of Self.

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Uncover your hidden desires and unlock the profound power of self-awareness and integration in your life with Existential Kink coaching-Where diving into the shadows reveals the light, illuminating your truest Self.

Existential Kink is a nurturing, safe haven where our shadowy sides and our deeply rejected desires are met with curiosity, love, acceptance, and tenderness. Existential Kink is the container and method for profound realizations, ecstatic release, and deep, physical sensations of truth.

Have you ever been told to “just have faith”, “think positive”, and “only focus on what you want”, only to have your best efforts fall flat? Are you affirming a $10,000 check in the mail for you while your landlord is still waiting for last month’s rent? It might be that your mind is far more attuned to being cynical and doubtful and that life isn’t always that rosy if we are being honest. We can call such negativity into awareness and find the deep, kinky joy we have at being right. Maybe we are grossed out by the very thing we claim to want, because…what would change then? With Existential Kink practices, we can find the bliss in that unconscious negativity, and joyfully embrace discomfort for potent, lasting transformation.

This tender journey of self-discovery illuminates our intimate longings for identity, purpose, personal authenticity, passion…

Unlock authenticity, navigate uncertainties, and embrace mindful choices—apply Existential Kink insights *and practices* to foster resilience, meaning, and deeper connections in daily life.

We can all relate to the struggles: The dead-end job, the crappy boss, the inability to advocate for yourself. Can anyone relate to the relationship rut (at best!) or the cycle of verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive relationships at worst? What about health goals that fall flat? Most of us know where we would like to be in terms of health, weight, strength, endurance, BMI, or even just a regular meditation practice, and yet, somehow, something always stands in the way or comes up just when we are about to get started. Finances anybody? That’s a biggie! We struggle to save, fall short of our financial goals, and never end up going on that dream vacation; these “good things” seem to hover just out of reach.

There are myriad examples of things we would like to do, places we would love to go, or changes we want to make. The list is endless and totally relatable. Existential Kink coaching is the lightning-fast track to removing the obstacles to your dreams and achievements. Together we will methodically inquire into what you disavow, discard, discredit, and disapprove of. Let’s lean into the kink of what you believe is “bad”, “naughty”, “unacceptable” “unworthy” “shameful” and “not allowed”. Together we will search the dark corners, unconscious caves, and murky waters of the psyche to unlock the desires and dreams you hold most dear.

The work that Kristen offers is profound and different than anything I’ve ever experienced. She gracefully helped me to witness myself without judgement and to open my heart to parts of myself I had previously rejected and forgotten about. I felt entirely safe in her guidance and support. The EK perspective is life changing and Kristen’s approach is powerful.

Savanah Schafer, LMT

Benefits of integrating Existential Kink into your life.

AUTHENTICITY

Existential Kink practices provide clarity into and reframing of your hidden desires, fears, and deep motivations. This kinky acceptance allows you to make fearless choices aligned with your true, authentic self’s voice, values, and goals.

VULNERABILITY

Embrace vulnerability for the super-power it is. Recognize that your feelings, voice, intuition, and body are worthy of loving and listening to, and speak your kinky truth. When you extend this acceptance to yourself, it extends to the world around you, fostering deeper, more authentic connections and increasing your limitless joy.

MINDFULNESS

Existential Kink is a playful practice of inquiry and introspection into our thoughts, our secretly held beliefs, and our physical sensations. This practice of bringing awareness to our “don’t like it” situations and experiences translate into greater mindfulness and efficacy in our daily lives. Find out how paying attention pays off!

RESILIENCE

Resilient people ask for help, learn from the past (and let the rest of it go), practice self-care, take accountability for their experiences, cultivate meaningful connections with others, and take action rather than ruminate endlessly. Mine the kinky depths of insecurity and discover your immense courage!

PURPOSE

Let’s find out what you are committed to by seeing what you have. What is the underlying vision for your experience? What do you want to accomplish, and what judgments hold you back? A strong sense of purpose guides you in times of chaos, provides direction amidst distractions, and keeps you moving forward. Remember, having is evidence of wanting, so let’s make sure you are in alignment with your greatest, highest purpose.

FREEDOM TO CHOOSE

Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is for you to be uniquely YOU! Let’s identify and process the subjective parental, religious, societal, gendered, and ancestral limitations that function as a background operating system and then let’s set your kinky self free!
What an Existential Kink Coaching Session look like?

Our session will always begin with creating a safe and non-judgmental container for exploration.

We will identify your “don’t like it” situations. Those things that are causing you stress, disappointment, and self-judgment. We will employ inquiry techniques, guided meditations, journaling, and other self-reflection techniques to navigate your unwanted desires authentically. Our collaborative sessions emphasize curiosity, compassion, and communication so you have the tools to get to the bottom of what you “don’t want” in order to achieve what you do. Together we will integrate these kinky existential insights to foster greater self-awareness, self-acceptance, and a deeper understanding of how to align your darkest desires with your highest, greatest results.

  • Each session last 1 hour
  • Packages are available
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Frequently Asked Questions

No sexual acts are involved in this work, however the ability to feel high sensation, which can at times be pleasurable, can arise in a session.

Yes, all of my work is currently on zoom. 

Movement through any particular “don’t like” situation depends a lot on how available you are for this change to occur.   For most people 5 to 10 sessions are effective for lasting results. 

Yes, I offer packages.  Currently 5 and 10 pack sessions though I am always available to negotiate something that works for you.

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